Monday, January 26, 2009
The first dating idea for any man is to make a good impression. In your doing so, you don't have to talk, dress or do the common things that all the Toms do to get a decent girl's attention. Be unique, that's all you need. Be a man of his own style. Dress decently - indecency can make one be mistaken for arrogance; watch your language - obscene language gives the impression of immaturity, being uncultured and cheap; be a man of good habits - don't drink or smoke like any other loser.
How to make her fall in love with you? Take your time. Add some romance to your dating style. When in College I had a crush on the most beautiful lady in our first year lot. Though all senior guys were out to get that girl, I managed to divert her attention from the other guys. I wrote her three letters without disclosing my identity and slid into her room secretly; all I said was 'Yours Secret Admirer.' The first letter contained the meaning of her name, this I got by playing around with the initials of her name to make meaning. The second was a funny message that could only be read backwards and it was all about her physique and her smartness. In the third letter I told the girl to be ready to receive a rose flower from her admirer, but only if she could be kind enough to phone him using a number that I had included in the letter. The girl did phone me that very night, and her first words to me were, "Hallo Secret Admirer." So, the story of our love affair came to be. Later she told me that was so creative of me, no one had approached her in that manner. I made her fall in love with me and made a date in the romantic manner.
Befriending and understanding the girl you are out to get is the next important thing. This is what I also did. You have to understand that as a lady, she loves to be loved, adores to be adored and needs to be needed. This will move you closer to the girl and you'll get to know what she's into, what she likes and dislikes, and what her style is. Love is built upon friendship and it always leaves individuals better off having known each other should they break up. I and my College steady were to break some time later but to date, we are the best of buddies. Be sure that bringing out the selflessness friend in you will make her create room for you in her heart.
A shoulder to lean on and some good friend that she can always turn to is all that a lady wants. Please don't hesitate to be helpful and supportive. Be that friend who rekindles her zeal of hardworking and restoring hope back into her life when she looses hope. This above all other things will make you her daily vitamin simply because you bring out the best in her in terms of personality and character. In you, she'll have found that friend whom she can open up to, share with and advice each other on the rights and wrongs, the dos and don'ts of life. Don't forget to always be there to celebrate the good times, and to lend an ear when the girl needs you to listen as a friend.
Make the girl feel special; because she's someone's friend - your friend, and let her know that she too has touched your life in a unique way like no one else could. Compliment her for her company and for being there when you needed her, when you felt sad and all alone. Show appreciations for the comfort the girl offers you and for making you smile.
In your day to day talks, share your dreams, your world, and every aspect of your life with your girl. Always dream with her, build with her, and always cheer her on and encourage her. Tell your girl how you always think about her even when you try not to think about her. Let the girl know that she's your first thing in the morning and the last thing when you go to bed at night.
Her knowing that you were thinking of her when you slipped beneath the softness of your blanket and gave in to the bliss of sweet dreams, will make her go 'my my' and her heart will sing your name all the year round.
You have to be creative and constructive to keep girl's interest in you so full of life. I remember one time I told my girlfriend to be to imagine we are both deaf and dump. We then sat opposite each other on the table and started sharing our feelings for each other using eyes and hand signs. It turned out to be some fun. There was also this time that we were in the library and we decided we are not going to speak to each other verbal, so I wrote a love note on a paper and passed it across the table to her, she replied and on and on we carried on our love on paper conversation till we almost exhausted a whole rim of paper. At sometime, I noticed that some guys sited with us on the table were enjoying our ordeal than their studies. Such are the things that made the girl embrace my world. I remember her suggesting that we play deaf and dump two years after we broke up, can you imagine that?
Never fail to phone her, even when she least expects it. I once called some girl that I was interested in at four o'clock in the morning. When inquiring of what I was doing up so early, I told her I was in thirteenth heaven, where people think of their loved ones when they can't sleep
. Wow! First thing early the next morning, she was at my door with a king-sized hug for me. No matter how many dates you take her, don't make any elbow - exceeding moves after any date, just drop her home and with a friendly handshake, wish her good night. Don't kiss her when she expects you to. Your respect as a gentleman will be earned on how patient you are with her when it comes to such matters as kissing her and accessing her inner graces.
The writing is on the wall that you want her, but you can't have her just yet. Increase your demand. Try to show her that men are also hard to get at times. Make her realize that when she feels a little dizzy, a little tired, a little sad, a little sick, a lot bored and very much cold, she's actually missing vitamin you. By this time, she'll be so much into you and since love is truthful and is characterized by open and honest communication, honestly promise her your everlasting devotion, loyalty, respect, and your unconditional love for a lifetime. Prove to her that you'll always be there for her, to listen and to hold her hand, and that you'll always do your best to make her happy, and feel loved.
Remember, patience is the key to her heart; be like that gardener watching a fruit as it hangs on the tree, day after day admiring it, but, exercising tremendous self-discipline, neither feeling the fruit, nor pinching it, nor testing it to see if it is ready. And then, one day he holds out his hand and the fruit simply drops into it, ripe, warm and eager to be eaten.
The patience and self-control which you practice will make you more attractive and charming. This will qualify you as her daily vitamin and win you that heart hers.
I wish you to meet the girl of your dreams ASAP, make her fall in love with you, and make her feel the happiest girl in the world! Read More..
Saturday, January 24, 2009
ketika ia lewat. “Oh, maafkansaya” adalah reaksi saya.
Ia berkata, “Maafkan saya juga; Saya tidak melihat Anda.”
Orang tidak dikenal itu, juga saya, berlaku sangat sopan.
Akhirnya kami berpisah dan mengucapkan selamat tinggal.
Namun cerita lainnya terjadi di rumah, lihat bagaimana kita memperlakukan
orang-orang yang kita kasihi, tua dan muda.
Pada hari itujuga, saat saya tengah memasak makan malam, anak lelaki saya berdiri diam-diam di
samping saya. Ketika saya berbalik, hampir
saja saya membuatnya jatuh. “Minggir,” kata saya
dengan marah. Ia pergi, hati kecilnya hancur. Saya tidak
menyadari betapa kasarnya kata-kata saya kepadanya.
Ketika saya berbaring di tempat tidur, seolah dengan halus Tuhan berbicara padaku,
“Sewaktu kamu berurusan dengan orang yang tidak kau kenal, kesopanan kamu
gunakan, tetapi anak-anak yang engkau kasihi, sepertinya engkau perlakukan
dengan sewenang-wenang. Coba lihat ke lantai dapur, engkau akan menemukan
beberapa kuntum bunga dekat pintu.”
“Bunga-bunga tersebut telah dipetik sendiri oleh anakmu; merah muda, kuning
dan biru. Anakmu berdiri tanpa suara supaya tidak menggagalkan kejutan yang
akan ia buat bagimu, dan kamu bahkan tidak melihat matanya yang basah saat itu.”
Seketika aku merasa malu, dan sekarang air mataku mulai menetes.
Saya pelan-pelan pergi ke kamar anakku dan berlutut di dekat tempat
tidurnya, “Bangun, nak, bangun,” kataku.
“Apakah bunga-bunga ini engkau petik untukku?”
Ia tersenyum, ” Aku menemukannya jatuh dari pohon. Aku
mengambil bunga-bunga ini karena mereka cantik seperti Ibu.
Aku tahu Ibu akan menyukainya, terutama yang berwarna biru”.
Aku berkata, “Anakku, Ibu sangat menyesal karena telah kasar padamu; Ibu
seharusnya tidak membentakmu seperti tadi. “
Si kecilku berkata, “Oh, Ibu, tidak apa-apa. Aku tetap mencintaimu.”
Aku pun membalas, “Anakku, aku mencintaimu juga,
dan aku benar-benar menyukai bunga-bunga ini, apalagi yang biru.”
Apakah anda menyadari bahwa jika kita mati besok,
perusahaan di mana kita bekerja sekarang bisa saja dengan
mudahnya mencari pengganti kita dalam hitungan hari?
Tetapi keluarga yang kita tinggalkan akan merasakan
kehilangan selama sisa hidup mereka.
Mari kita renungkan, kita melibatkan diri lebih dalam kepada pekerjaan kita
ketimbang keluarga kita sendiri, suatu investasi yang tentunya kurang
Jadi apakah anda telah memahami apa tujuan cerita di atas?
Apakah anda tahu apa arti kata KELUARGA?
Dalam bahasa Inggris, KELUARGA = FAMILY.
FAMILY = (F)ATHER (A)ND (M)OTHER, (I), (L)OVE, (Y)OU
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Agaknya hakikat perkawinan kini makin tak mudah dipahami, menyusul
makin banyaknva pasangan gampang menceraikan diri.
Padahal, kalau kita buat daftar alasan mengapa orang memutuskan untuk
menikah dan daftar alasan mengapa mereka bercerai, pasti akan
ditemukan banyak overlaping pada kedua daftar tersebut.
Ketika menjemput teman di bandara sore tadi, tak sengaja saya
mendapat pelajaran berharga arti sebuah perkawinan.
Di ruang kedatangan, seorang pria paruh baya menenteng
koper dan tas kecil tergopoh menjemput keluarga yang datang
Sambil berjongkok ia memeluk anaknya yang kecil, perempuan usia lima
tahun. Dari hangatnya pelukan erat anak-bapak ini tercermin betapa
masing-masing amat rindu. “Apa kabar Dik? Papa kangen nih.” Sang anak
tersipu-sipu, Adik juga kangen Pa.” Kemudian ia memandang si sulung.
Bocah lelaki usia 10 tahun. “Wah, Dion sudah gede sekarang” ujarnya
sambil merangkulnya. Mereka saling mengelus kepala. Adegan
selanjutnya, adalah ciuman kasih si pria terhadap ibu kedua anaknya,
layaknya pengantin baru.
Rasa iri terbersit di hati melihat adegan tersebut.
“Sudah berapa tahun usia perkawinan Anda,”
tanya saya kepada si pria.
“Kami sudah menikah selama 17 tahun,” jawabnya
tanpa melepaskan gandengan tangan istrinya.
“Omong-omong, Anda pergi berapa lama sih?”
“Dua hari,” jawabnya singkat.
Saya terkejut mendengar jawaban itu. Betapa tidak, melihat kerinduan
masing-masing dalam penyambutan mesra itu, saya pikir pria tadi sudah
meninggalkan keluarganya selama berbulan-bulan.
“Mengapa Anda tanyakan hal itu,” tanya si pria melihat wajah saya termangu.
“Well, semoga saya bisa seperti Anda.”
“Jangan hanya berharap. Just Do It,” ujarnva berlalu.
Barangkali memang benar pernyataan Mignon McLaughlin jurnalis Amerika
terkenal, sebuah perkawinan yang berhasil menuntut jatuh cinta
berkali-kali tapi selalu pada orang yang sama.*